Happy New Year! My name is Cheryl, and I have decided to ring in the new year with a commitment to write a blog. There are so many ways to tackle this, and I am not sure which way I will go. I want it to be a place where I can practice courage, vulnerability, and freedom. In order to do that, there are many risks, as you can imagine.
This blog intends to invite you on my journey with chronic illness and childhood trauma. My intentions are to allow you, my readers, if I have any, to get a glimpse into the world of chronic illness, trauma and the healing journey. It is my hope that therapists, survivors, and endurers of chronic illness alike will benefit from this project.
This blog is also about my life on the other couch in the proverbial therapy room as I am also a therapist. Pulling the two together will make this a unique blog. Each week I spend countless hours on one couch as a therapist in a private practice. I listen to stories of incredible people who are stuck, or are in some pretty awful places. I listen and I guide. I’ve learned from my own therapy how to be a good therapist, and how to be a bad therapist. I can’t say that I am perfect, but I am learning and growing.
I take one day off a week, which is spent on the other couch as a client. I have an incredible therapist (Polly) who has walked through the deep dark caverns of chronic illness and childhood trauma, and who has assisted me in facing some pretty hard dragons. I have learned so much from the journey, and I hope to share what I have learned with you so that you too can heal from your chronic illness, trauma, or help those you love who have been through some very dark caverns of their own. I’m not done yet, I am still on the journey. I fall off many cliffs. I’m not here to say I’ve achieved some level of healing or that I will never fall down – just the opposite! I’m learning to get up each time and I hope that encourages you to get up each time too.
I plan to explore topics such as restorative yoga, art therapy, trauma-focused treatment methods, anxiety, depression, panic attacks, chronic illness, learning how to tell our stories and how to be brave. I will address how to talk to someone who is immersed in chronic illness, trauma, how to tell your spouse you were abused, and how to find a good therapist. I would like to address topics that will help therapists and clients communicate better, strengthen their therapeutic relationship and allow healing to move through them and you. I intend for this blog to be real; transparent.
I will begin this blog with a pseudonym for everyone I speak of. Identifying information could be potentially damaging, so to protect the privacy of everyone involved, I will not use real names. I am bound legally to not speak of some things. This is not because I am choosing fear over courage, it is simply an act of protection. I will go into that in more detail in future posts. As I discuss, I think you will come understand the wisdom in this.
So, welcome, my friend. I am glad you are here, and I am excited to see where 2017 brings us. To learn more about me or this blog, please refer to the “about me” page. Feel free to leave a comment and let me know that you have arrived. Pull up a seat, relax with a cup of tea or coffee and lets get to know one another.
All my best to you,